my wonderful husband is also a guy. thank heaven for that, right? lol.
I have learned the the very "guy" personality traits of my hubby and I have learned about the very "girl" personality traits of myself.
guys cannot multitask their attention very well - FACT. now there are a few guys out there that might not apply, but overall...you know? women can pretty much be making a pie, watching a show, and talking to someone all at the same time (it helps a lot when it involves kids). my hubby has this "guy" trait. he is a great listener if I sit him down, hold his hands or touch his knee, and look him in the eye. if I need advice or need to share something, he is totally there for me whenever I need him :) however, if he is playing a game or there is a commercial on or something along the lines of any distraction, I can talk about anything and he won't hear. he feels bad most of the time and it is almost funny. I am SO patient with it too! mostly b/c I have learned that guys do this. if I hadn't been taught that, I would be furious!
I usually start out with a sentence or two and then pause. I can kinda tell now when he isn't paying attention. by starting with a sentence or two, I save myself from having to repeat a whole story. smart, yeah? sometimes I know he isn't paying attention and I don't mind. I still tell my story or express something as if he were listening. I guess it is kinda like a kid talking to her stuffed animals. haha. I get to share whatever I was thinking or heard and then I don't feel like I am wasting his time with something kinda pointless.
so that is Jacob's "guy" trait.
I have a girl trait that is displayed in this story I'm about to share...
Monday was Presidents' day and the day that we had to go to IF to sign Jacob up with a bank account at my original bank. they had a great deal and Jacob had the day off! we don't typically drive to IF on his off days b/c our current truck gets about 13 miles to the gallon and IF is about 36ish miles away. we already spend about $400 a month in gas and we can't afford going more than we have to, so this was a special day.
I was sick with the cold Jacob was kind enough to give me. lol. we finished with the bank, walked through a bit of the mall, went to Deseret Books to talk about our favorite paintings, then stopped by his work for a bit. on our way home we were going to stop by a furniture store, that I had seen about a month ago, to see prices of tables (which seem to be expensive no matter where we go). we got off the exit that I thought would take us there, but we must have passed it. I was really sad. Jacob asked if I wanted to turn around and head back down the highway to see if we would see it. I said no and he asked if I was sure. my heart was screaming YES, but I quietly said no. I didn't want to waste gas on something that might be shut down anyways.
we headed home and I started to cry. a little at first and then more. going to the furniture shop with Jacob was all I had wanted all day. I had been looking forward to it for a month and it would be at least another 3 weeks before we had the opportunity again. Jacob was so confused! I kinda told him why I was crying. I tried to stop, but I was sick and PMSing and sad. Jacob said, "but I asked if you wanted to turn around!". I knew he did, but I kinda expected him to just turn around anyways even when I quietly said no. for some reason I thought he knew that I really really wanted to do this with him.
we had just pulled back into our apartment parking lot and he turned around. I was so confused and he said that he was taking me back to find it cuz that is what would be me the happiest and he wanted a happy Kris. I told him that I wouldn't get out of the car b/c I looked like a complete mess now! he just told me that I'd better make myself look decent by the time we got there. lol.
I looked so hard for that furniture store! but let me tell ya, it had vanished. no lie. one month it was there and the next with was gone. building and all! okay, not really, but I seriously couldn't find it. this building that had been taunting me for what seemed like forever, was now hiding in plain sight. it drove me CRAZY and made me feel like quite the fool. we drove all the way back to IF to find it! I felt horrible but all Jacob and I could do was laugh and be frustrated, but laugh some more.
b/c he drove all the way back to IF (the second time in one day!) I agreed that he deserved to look around in the gun shop.
on our way home, I saw it! it was a lot smaller than I remembered, but we pulled off the highway to see it. the road brought us up behind the building. the big furniture sign that was in the front was also in the back...but this time it said "FURNITUPE"...? it didn't look like the "R" was missing a leg b/c it looked painted. the glass door was taped up and there were ugly trucks/cars in the tiny parking lot thingy. it was creepy and, more than likely, shut down a very long time ago and was some drug house. I was heart broken, but I couldn't cry b/c Jacob was sweet enough to take me all the way back to whoopwhoop land to find my pretty much non existent furniture store.
what we both learned: my "girl" trait is saying one thing and meaning another. my heart and mind might say one thing, but my mouth says another. crazy, right?
I read this thing on pinterest that said:
horrible, right? but kinda true? I shared this with one of my girlfriends that would totally agree with this. haha.it really helps our relationship when we know our "guy/girl" traits. it keeps us on our toes and make sense of some situations. I hope it keeps helping us as we try to overcome or "guy/girl" traits a little more here and there.
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